They say life sucks but to many people it is but a bare existence. Life sucks when you have problems and no solutions in sight,when you have debts that cripple you or when your sick or have lost a loved one. Little wonder that we do not take a moment to reflect and savor it when we have a chance or are enjoying ourselves.
They say to be loved is to be praised with the highest compliment,I think the person who wrote that never had a bad day in a relationship. Love is a cruel mistress who drains you repeatedly and moves on when you are totally spent or absent of love and anger or jealousy takes over. When in love we think the world is correct and we feel bullet proof, no wonder no one writes books about moving on or managing your life after. I believe the 3 biggest causes of love gone sour is infidelity,sex and finances. I do understand we are human but we always stray and that is why it is said we were moulded in his image but we are not perfect. Further more the joys of sex when withheld or used as a currency to batter with brings a tear to the eye. We are 1 of 2 mammals in this world that indulge in sex for fun n leisure and not only reproductive purposes. Coincidentally,the dolphin is the other animal even though we talk about the sexual throws of the rabbit,minx,lion and pigs. Lastly money, the root of all evil as dictated by society at large is both a blessing and a curse. With it you feel like climbing mount Kenya is but a task easily achieved by waving a hand.when there is no trust or transparency in finances, it makes our darker and sadistic side more visible picture a relationship ripe with any of the 3 mentioned above and now to play devils advocate picture roles reversed and the man on the receiving side.to crush a mans ego is to crush his soul. The romans new it, the slave masters perfected it and todays woman washes and constantly rewrites the book on it while screaming for all to hear the bad virtues of men while refusing to look at the hand they played in the fiasco.
Thus all the women in Nairobi have but one story on their lips each evening, what is the story on busted today. Team women or as i like to fondly refer to them as the biggest gang in the world, proudly discuss in the mattes, salons, houses and to any and everyone who will lend an ear for 5 minutes what happened on Cikus show this evening, the guy who is busted and how men are dogs who should be locked up and caged 24-7-365 and can only be trusted as far as you can spit.
Ladies i only have one thing to say, if this is the highlight of your day, then truly all the soaps on citizen, NTV and KTN will not help you salvage that relationship of yours. You complain of how the man has a straying eye but you don't ask yourself when was the last time you made him a home cooked meal, or complimented something he did? When was the last time you were nice to him, by his standards and not what you think is nice in your book? When was the last time you said thank you or i'm sorry? When was the last time you did something without ulterior motives? If the answer to any of this questions is a long pause as you contemplate the last time or reach for your dear diary to chicken entries then for sure you deserve the hyena you get. However if you are doing all of the above and still get a monkey as a bed fellow then remember not all of us are rotten apples in the basket and as such wake up, leave the baggage and move on to a better person. Don't wait until the Ike Turner in him or Chris Brown chomokas before you call it quits and walk around for us like a suicide bomber lambasting all of us for your poor choice in life.
Complacency is the subject here; unfortunately time does not make it any better. Truth be told there is nothing like a flawless balance in any relationship - but tolerance is key in mitigating this inevitable erosion. Way forward: none really, agree to disagree sometimes and work hard to please more often.
ReplyDeleteThis is quite different from your usual rambling. I must say, I like it. Congrats.
ReplyDeleteWell said, we are not perfect. For me, the key word here is patience and understanding. Most often than not, we forget and take for granted what is right infront of us only to cry later. Its good to sit back, reflect and appreciate what you have even if they are not perfect. In most cases, money and love are hardly compatible and the times we live in even with rumors of the AIDS cure, infidelity is a constant worry and it warrants blind faith. Not everyone can be Prince William and not every girl can be as lucky as Princess Kate.